14months post-op and 4months pregnant

I'm starting on a new journey. I am pregnant with our first child, due June 2012. I've wanted to share this news here for quite a while, but I kinda figured I needed to tell my family and my boss before telling this world (as I know there is a bit of overlap).

I was a bit nervous when we first found out (heck, I still am - this is a big change!), as I had assumed that I would be high-risk, due to my surgery. According to my doctor I am not high risk! I am young (25yrs now), and quite healthy (as I had to be in order to donate) and thus I am at the higher end of normal risk, but still normal.
I have to say, this was a bit of a relief to find out! They will still keep an extra eye on my blood pressure and do a bit of extra monitoring but other than that they anticipate this being a normal and healthy pregnancy.

Being pregnant did bring to mind all of the risks they warned me about prior to surgery - the increased risk of pre-eclampsia, hypertension, pre-term labor, and low birth weight. What I have been thinking about is that this 'increased risk' took me from less than 1% chance to less than 3%. Which means that I have a 97% chance of no complications.

This is one of those things - it's one thing when being pregnant is an abstract thought of something that may happen at some undetermined point in the future, and another when that second line comes up on the pregnancy test.
Granted, I am still early in the pregnancy, and June is still 6 months away, but from where I stand now, if I could know what I know now back then, I would totally do it all over again. I am young, I am healthy, and the 3% chance is still not enough to balance out the good the my kidney has done for someone else (and their family!).

I know this might be silly, but I kinda figure that since all the organs get squished and pushed out of the way, having only one kidney gives this kid some extra room to grow/move around.

I will continue to come back to this blog, to share updates on life with one kidney, and to let you know how being pregnant with one kidney is going. If I haven't posted, chances are that means things are going so well I don't really have anything to report.

I know this is a new can of worms, so please let me know if you have any questions on life with one kidney, the surgery, recovery, and now how it is having an impact on this new journey. I don't think I am the only person to get pregnant with one kidney, but in this new digital age, I may be one of the few that is willing to blog about the experience. If you would like me to post more frequent updates, let me know as well - I'm happy to post if it will help someone out there.

The Boss Knows...and thinks I should wait

Yesterday was an interesting conversation. I was able to sit with my boss and her husband (a rare thing) and talk about a few things that had been going on at work. After a bit of this I felt it would be a good time to talk to them about what I've decided to do.

I have to admit, I was a bit taken off guard with their reactions. I'm not sure what I expected, but I hadnt expected both of them to tell me to wait, and revisit this after a (minimum) year. They will both support me in going through this, but did say that they would rather celebrate me choosing not to go through with this, than celebrate a date for surgery being set.

I think the thought was that as the formal process has only been going on for 4 months, and I am so young (23) that I havent had the opportunity to think this through clearly. They asked how I would feel if down the road a close friend or family member (possibly a child) needed a kidney, and although I was a match, I didnt have one to give, as I had already given it to someone else. I've thought about that.
My thinking is that for certain I will be saving someone's life (or at least extending it), and there is a small possibility that someone I know will ever need a kidney, and I'm not willing to trade a certainty for a possibility. I dont think I will regret this decision down the road, I've done enough research to know what I'm getting into, what life will be like, and just something inside is saying this is the right thing to do. I'm going to trust that feeling and make it happen.

The other thing is by saving my kidney for someone who might never need it, I would be saying that the lives of my friends and family are worth more than someone elses, which isnt true. Just because I dont know them doesnt make them any less of a person or any less valuable. I also know, that life with one kidney will be normal, functioning, healthy, and long. I'm okay with that.

I firmly believe that should a situation happen where later in my life, if someone I know needs an organ, that they will get one. I believe that with everything that I am. And things have a way of working out for me, in better (and more) ways than I could have ever imagined. So I believe that this will work out, and it will be a good decision.

So the reaction wasnt what I expected, but I know that they will support me, and keep this to themselves (which is just as important as their support). I feel a bit better having told them, but know that I would have felt better if the main theme of their reaction wasnt "you shouldnt go through with this."

Be that as it may, its time to move on and get back to work as I wait for the psyc appointment to be set. 

Small sidebar:
I'm not the youngest (Living) donor on record (thankfully), but I am among a total of 34,621 donors age 18-25, with 141 being in 2010 thus far (American Stats, sorry dont have Canadian ones, but will post a link if I find them).